Men, do you know what your strengths and gifts are? You'll get plenty of feedback about your failings, shortcomings, and weaknesses. And this does help keep our pride from growing any worse. But men today need a strong message of encouragement.

There are several fine articles about spiritual gifts available online, and interactive assessment tools that can help you identify your spiritual gifts. Start with this quick overview (be sure to look up the verse references!), and then try an assessment tool.

Be sure to discuss the results with your wife, your pastor, and a friend.

I recommend the book, Now, Discover Your Strengths. (It's available for sale on Amazon here.) The central premise of this book is that you have at least five natural strengths or talents that you can build on -- no matter what work or service you do. You can work on your weaknesses and improve them. But you'll make further progress by building on your strengths.

Men, you are the spiritual leader in your home. Help your wife and children identify their spiritual gifts and natural talents. This will be enormously encouraging to them.

Everyone in your family should know the natural talents and spiritual gifts the Lord has provided them.